Everything is more beautiful because we’re doomed. You will never be lovelier than you are now. We will never be here again.

 

 

i am not what happened to me. i am what i choose to become

 

we want to feel, experience and behave in ways which are consistent with our self-image and which reflect what we would like to be like, our ideal-self.  The closer our self-image and ideal-self are to each other, the more consistent or congruent we are and the higher our sense of self-worth.  A person is said to be in a state of incongruence if some of the totality of their experience is unacceptable to them and is denied or distorted in the self-image.